A structured intake across five territories of a life
This asks about your body, your mind, the people around you, your work, and what it is all for. It takes about an hour, and it is designed to be done across several sittings rather than in one.
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Before you begin
There are no right answers, and half-formed ones are useful. Where a question does not apply, skip it. Where the honest answer is "I do not know" or "I cannot remember," write that; it is real information, not a gap.
For the ladders, choose the rung that describes where you actually are, not where you intend to be. For the written questions, a few sentences is plenty, though write more wherever you want to.
You can use your real name or any name you are comfortable with. Nothing here is medical advice, and nothing here is a diagnosis.
I · Body
How is your body?
1.1 Health
Normal labs and feeling fine are not the same thing. We start with what is actually known about your body, because physical issues often sit underneath everything else.
current physical reality
medical follow-through
1.2 Energy
Energy is what everything else runs on. We track where yours is steady, where it drops, and how you spend it, because the pattern usually points to a cause.
supply and pacing
1.3 Restoration
Whether sleep actually restores you matters more than the hours. We also look at whether you can rest without earning it first.
waking up
resting while awake
1.4 Physical capacity
There is a difference between maintaining your body and living in it. We ask which one you are doing right now.
physical capability
connection to your body
1.5 Being seen
How comfortable you are being seen affects more of your day than it should, and the face you show the world is rarely the whole of what is underneath. We ask carefully, because this can be tender ground.
appearance
persona), read into the centre
1.6 Whose body
Your stance toward your own body, ally, project, or afterthought, shapes a lot else. It also tells us how much of your life feels like yours.
II · Mind
How is your mind?
2.1 Mental clarity
Mental clarity comes and goes for reasons, usually sleep, load, or stress. We map the pattern rather than assume you are losing your edge.
cognitive clarity
information management
2.2 Emotional weather
Feeling fine and feeling alive are not the same. We look at whether good things still reach you, not just whether you are coping.
emotional baseline
emotional processing
2.3 Anxiety
Stress leaves a physical trace, in your jaw, your sleep, your shoulders. We ask where yours lands and whether it ever clears.
baseline tension
2.4 Resilience
What matters is not whether setbacks hit you, but what they leave behind. We look at how you recover and what it costs you.
impact of setbacks
what setbacks leave behind
2.5 Inner monologue
The tone of your self-talk sets your baseline. We ask how much of that voice is yours and how much you picked up elsewhere.
III · Relationships
How are your people, and your place?
3.1 Desire
Desire moves with the seasons of a life. We ask where yours is now, because its going quiet is information in itself.
wanting and being wanted
the current of it
3.2 Primary partnership / close bond
Being genuinely known by even one person is a strong anchor. We look at this bond honestly, whether it is present or missing.
current bond health
conflict resolution
3.3 Friendship
Friendship that knows the real you needs upkeep and is easy to let thin. We ask who actually knows how you are doing.
friends group
social safety and depth
3.4 Reciprocity
Relationships that only take from you are a real drain, and often the drain is the invisible managing you do to keep them running. We ask whether the give and take in yours runs both ways.
balance and initiative
3.5 Belonging
Belonging, mattering to a group and being missed, is a real need. A full calendar and personal success do not automatically meet it.
3.6 Place
Where you live either restores you or quietly taxes you every day. We ask whether your surroundings actually fit you.
city and surroundings
the home itself
3.7 Family
Family dynamics easily trigger old behaviors. We ask whether your autonomy holds up around them, or whether you revert to old habits.
family relationship
old roles vs. current self
3.8 Children
Motherhood, or the question of it, takes up a large share of a woman's bandwidth. We ask to separate what you actually want from outside pressure.
3.9 Assertion
What you do with anger, express it, swallow it, or hold it in your body, shows how safely you can set a boundary.
saying the hard thing
where the anger goes
3.10 Authenticity
Keeping a persona that does not match your inner reality is exhausting. We look at where you are hiding, and from whom.
IV · Work
4.1 Vocational fit
Being good at your work and being suited to it are different. We look at whether your daily work actually uses your strengths.
4.2 Mastery
Getting genuinely better at something hard builds real confidence that routine tasks cannot. We ask whether your work still offers that, and whether you actually convert the intention into the doing.
4.3 Expression
We ask whether you have a creative or expressive outlet, and whether it gets any real room. It tends to be the first thing practical life crowds out.
4.4 Agency
How much control you have over your work changes your stress levels, whatever the workload. We ask where you have real say and where you do not.
4.5 Financial security
Money pressure forces short-term, reactive choices. We map your financial footing to see how much room you actually have to move.
4.6 Financial values alignment
Your spending is an honest record of your priorities. We ask you to look at where your money actually goes, not where you say it does.
4.7 Whose career
A career built to prove something to other people takes constant upkeep. We ask so you can see which parts you chose and which parts you built for approval.
V · Meaning
What is it all for?
5.1 Purpose
What your days are actually in service of is worth naming. We ask whether you can say it plainly, or only feel it.
5.2 Value congruence
Living out of step with your values creates a steady, low friction that success does not fix. We ask where the gap is.
5.3 Connection
A regular connection to something larger, nature, art, the sacred, keeps daily stress in proportion. We ask how open that door is for you.
5.4 Contribution
Wanting to matter beyond yourself is a real part of a life, not vanity. We ask whether that has a place in yours yet.
5.5 Whose definition
Success metrics are easily inherited. We ask so you can see whether you are chasing your own goals or someone else's, and where the borrowed self first came from.
metric
origin
VI · History and closing
The arc, and a few things that do not fit a category
The history, chapters
Life does not happen in a vacuum, and reading your present state against your own history is the only fair way to see your growth.
Where your life has been set, in order. Rows of place, years or ages, and one optional line for what that chapter was. Repeatable.
The history, markers
Specific events quietly pivot everything that follows. We mark them to acknowledge their weight without forcing you to re-explain or relive them.
Tick anything that marked your years, with a rough year and one optional line. Nothing here asks what it meant.
The timeline
"When did you last feel most like yourself" is often the most useful line in here. The answer usually knows something you have not said out loud.
Play
Whether you still make room for something with no purpose but pleasure is one of the quieter signals of how a life is going.
Relationship to change
Insight only helps if it meets how you actually change, so we ask how that works for you before suggesting anything.
Where you're most yourself
You are more than the sum of what is hard, and knowing what already works, where you feel most yourself, is as much the point as anything else.
The unsaid
No set of questions is complete, and the truest thing about your life right now might be one nobody thought to ask.
VII · The Threshold
The four that decide the most
These four decide more than anything else in this journal. What you permit yourself, what you are refusing to make irreversible, and which part of your drive is actually your own.
VIII · Physical signals
A quick factual pass, no reflection required
One last, different kind of pass. A quick factual checklist, no reflection required, just tick what is true. It is read on its own, and if a pattern is worth checking with a doctor, your report says so plainly and names what to raise. Nothing here is scored, and nothing here is a diagnosis.
Tick anything true right now.
Energy, heart, and circulation
Temperature, skin, hair, and nails
Cycle, pelvis, and hormones
Metabolic and blood sugar
Gut, digestion, and food reactivity
Head, nerves, and sensory load
Attention, focus, and regulation
Sleep and recovery
Immune, joints, and recovery
Worth prompt attention if present
Context, which changes the reading rather than being a symptom
Timing
Cycle
Finishing
Your answers, and what happens to them
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